A Letter to Single Women
Dear Beautiful One,
How many times have you heard the following:
· Why are you still single?
· When are you getting married?
· Would you like me to set you up with someone?
· Have you ever thought of putting yourself out there more?
· Are you really not seeing anyone?
And the list goes on and on (depending on who you are talking to). The questions and comments that follow can sometimes be overwhelming. Trust me, I’ve been there before. Always remember that you are loved, beautiful, and worthy of both a healthy relationship and future marriage!
Singleness is a time like no other. It is a season that you cannot get back once you enter into a union of marriage, but it can be one of the best seasons of your life as you prepare for what’s to come.
God has given you this opportunity to choose how you’re going to spend it. You can either spend time wishing, hoping, or wanting for something that you do not have yet, or you can use the time to bless and serve the Lord. This is the only time you will truly be able to give the Lord your undivided attention. Paul discusses both marriage and singleness in 1 Corinthians 7. In verses 33-34, he describes the married man as one whose interests are divided. He has responsibilities to his wife, so he is not able to completely focus on the Lord and the same with the wife. However, in verse 34, he says that a woman who is unmarried can devote herself to the Lord.
So how can you prepare your heart for your future spouse and still devote yourself to the Lord in this season of your life?
First, devote your mind to the things of God. Philippians 4:8 states, “...Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” Set your mind on things that glorify the Lord. Give Him your first thought of the day, the last thought, and all of the thoughts in between! You will find yourself trusting in Him to do a work in your life if you are thinking about godly things. Use this time to bless His heart just as He will bless your undivided heart when you are focusing on Him!
Second, devote your heart to His work. Participate in things that bring joy to the Lord. When Solomon was dedicating the temple in 1 Kings 8, he blessed the Israelites and gave them a charge saying to follow after the Lord’s will and be completely faithful to Him (verse 58-61). One of the best ways to prepare your heart for your future spouse is to devote that same heart to the work of the Lord, whether that’s through sharing your faith, discipling others in the faith, or serving those around you. Doing the Lord’s work will help keep your focus undivided and prepare your heart for the one you will share your life with.
Lastly, devote your time to studying His Word and meeting with others who will help edify your relationship with Him. Acts 2 is a beautiful example of just that. The believers in verses 42-47 devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching. They did not give up meeting, but met daily and the Bible says that God added new believers to their numbers every single day. This is what devotion looks like, and it is the best time in your life to really devote yourself in that way.
While in this season of waiting, devote yourself to the Lord. When you do this, you will be able to really fall in love with the Lord and love Him with all of your heart, soul, and mind like it says in Matthew 22:37. If you can love God in that way, imagine how you will be able to love your future spouse!